When I think of what type of advice is the best to give, I have to say marriage advice. Why? Because your spouse is who you spend your whole life with. They are the ones who endure every difficulty, failure and struggle with you. They are on your side for success, growth and blessings. You lean on each other, rely on each other and make a life together.
A marriage is a partnership and if you nurture it, it can be the most amazing thing in your life. It can give you comfort and hope and stability when the rest of the world cannot.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
#1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
#2. My son, a woman could be a great wife to you, some could be a good mother to your kids however if you’ve find a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.
#3. My son, don’t confine the position of your other half to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning … that was our office.
#4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, do not look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
#5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she understands the home needs and bills to pay however if it is in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
#6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared with the wound on her heart which means you might be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
#7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
#8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our big farm-lands and lots of harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
#9. My son, under the big tree that I did meet your mother could be restaurants and dining establishments nowadays, however remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
#10. My son, do not be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.
#11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her a lot.
#12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
#13. My son, your mother, she rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
#14. My son, do not compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
#15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claims to have equal right with you in your home, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
#16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her dad, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, do not blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
#17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to believe a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see today has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
#18. My son, your mother have once locked the cloth I was wearing and nearly tore it since she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
#19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you those now call tattoo, however always remember that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women nowadays.
#20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle problems without always coming to us.
#21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
#22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mom, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
#23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, speak to God that knows everything, everyday.