The Link Between Verbal Abuse And Anxiety That No One Talks About!


When you hear the term “abuse,” what are a few of the first words or images that come to mind? Many people probably think about words like violence, beating, and hitting or images of fighting and violent familial relationships. However, there is one type of abuse that usually goes ignored– verbal abuse– and it causes severe damage to the mental health.

The Surprising Types Of Verbal Abuse

Sadly, it has many faces and there are different types of abuse, including:

  • Emotional or psychological abuse
  • Domestic violence
  • Financial abuse
  • Elder abuse
  • Sexual abuse
  • Spiritual abuse
  • Verbal abuse

According to the Healthy Place, an online community for abuse victims, verbal abuse is unique due to the fact that it can affect everyone at any level of interaction ability or understanding. Types of verbal abuse can be as subtle or direct and as aggressive or passive aggressive as the abuser intends– and it’s more common than you believe.

11 Signs Of Verbal Abuse

In addition to depression, verbal abuse is one of the most severe anxiety causes. Victims of verbal abuse are often left with a multitude of negative signs and adverse health effects. Although it does not leave you with bruises or breaks, serious physical and emotional signs still exist.

  • High levels of stress
  • Chronic fear and anxiety
  • Migraines
  • Memory disorders
  • Eating- and sleep-related issues
  • Stomach aches and other gastrointestinal disorders
  • Damage to the teeth and jaw
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  • Stress-induced hormonal imbalances.
  • Self-harm as well as suicide.

In spite of these frightening signals, the mental abuse signs in a marriage or other relationships can be hard to spot at first.

The 15 The Most Common Examples Of Verbal Abuse

Psychologist and author Patricia Evans, in her book “The Verbally Abusive Relationship,” identifies both subtle and obvious types of verbal abuse which we’ve summarized below. In the unfortunate but proper context, you may consider any of the following acts against someone a form of verbal abuse.

#1. Accusing or laying blame
In these types of abuse, the abuser will accuse the victim of things totally out of his/her control.

#2. Withholding
When the abuser keeps information (i.e., fails to share thoughts and feelings), participating in a healthy relationship becomes impossible.

#3. Threatening
Sending out threats are a common form of verbal abuse. The abuser can threaten a victim saying, for example, they will leave the relationship or that other people will believe negatively of the victim.

#4. Countering
Spoken abusers have the tendency to be (unnecessarily) argumentative about everything from political views to film choices.

#5. Trivializing
This is the act of regularly minimizing a victim’s experiences, opinions, or desires.

#6. Abusive Anger
This includes any kind of screaming or yelling, especially out of context and without any real necessity.

#7. Discounting
This is a dangerous sign of abuse because the abuser takes any attempt to deny someone of their right to their thoughts or feelings.

#8. Judging or criticizing
In this type of non-physical domestic violence, these two things are often done in combination with accusing and laying blame. A judgmental abuser will usually give negative evaluations of the victim.

#9. Name-calling
Name-calling can be subtle or explicit, ranging from calling someone a “b****” or “You think you are so precious, don’t you?”

#10. Verbal abuse disguised as jokes
While the abuser may say something clearly upsetting and insulting to the victim, they will quickly add that they were just joking or weren’t being serious.

#11. Blocking and diverting
This sign is similar to “withholding” where the abuser limits and decides what can or cannot be talked about, so as to suit his or her prerogative.

#12. Ordering the victim around
Ordering is one of the most noticeable signs of an abuser trying to gain and maintain control in an unhealthy way.

#13. Undermining
Much like trivializing, undermining turns everything a victim says into something less important. The undermining abuser might also force the victim to question her own opinions, interest, and beliefs.

#14. Forgetting
Abusers will conveniently forget dates, appointments, or promises made to the victim. While people can be forgetful, abusive people rarely (if ever) make an effort to remember.

#15. Rejection
An abuser will always try to justify and rationalize their behaviour, failing to see their own faults and shortcomings– even when they’re glaringly obvious. They’re also not able to recognize the consequences of their actions.

It’s really frightening how damaging and destructive this non-physical domestic violence can be. Because of the constant state of worry and anxiety victims live, they often develop depression from abuse.

Verbal Abuse Help

Experiencing any types of verbal abuse takes a toll and it only takes a single action to do the damage. Because verbal abuse seems less visible, numerous people can become blind to instances of it in our own lives. So, if someone you know– a buddy, member of the family, colleague, or even stranger– looks stressed, anxious, forgetful, distant or unusually negative, reach out.

Be graceful, be understanding, say little, listen much, and let them know they are not alone.


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